It’s been a year since d-day. In this last year, I’ve wallowed in the depths of despair, I’ve laid in the fetal position on the floor not… Read more “One year since D-Day”
Betrayal is Bullshit
Some anger started creeping up this week. It was over the discussion on fulfilling each other’s needs going forward. I started to get defensive in the session… Read more “Betrayal is Bullshit”
The excitement of an affair
One of the plagues of infidelity, for the betrayed partner, is the fact that you will never know the secrets of the affair. I imagine the excitement,… Read more “The excitement of an affair”
Window of Opportunity
At some point in the midst of grief and healing, a decision has to be made. That window of opportunity opens and you can feel it, the… Read more “Window of Opportunity”
When He Tries
The other day my husband said that he was going to get the Five Love Languages book by Gary D. Chapman. My feeling was that he wanted… Read more “When He Tries”
Holidays
Christmas is nearing. I see the lights up around me. The stores filled with presents. The carols on the radio. But the warmth of the season is… Read more “Holidays”
Rough edges
Sometimes it seems like the world is all rough edges. There is no tenderness and you must push through and fight the battles even when you don’t… Read more “Rough edges”
Setting My Boundaries
This week my therapy work was on understanding how to set boundaries and balancing that with vulnerability. There can be no real intimacy without vulnerability. So how… Read more “Setting My Boundaries”
Couples Counseling Day 1
The saying goes, ‘Don’t just love with a whole heart, but love with a heart that is whole.’ It was very clear to me today just how… Read more “Couples Counseling Day 1”
The End is Nigh
The intent of writing our ‘Needs that must be fulfilled’ was grounded in hope, love and honesty. The reality is much different. We are drifting, each into… Read more “The End is Nigh”
Meeting Our Needs 2
Last night my husband and I sat with our journals and went through our needs – physical, emotional, intimacy, and marriage deal-breakers. I was expecting some zingers,… Read more “Meeting Our Needs 2”
Meeting our Needs
It’s been two months since my foundation collapsed. Since I found out our wedding vows were broken. Two months since – For better or for worse, Till… Read more “Meeting our Needs”
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